The Arbinger Institute Quotes.

1. "always remember that it is progress, not perfection, you should be looking for."
- Quote by The Arbinger Institute

2. "There is a question I have learned to ask myself when I am feeling bothered about others: am I holding myself to the same standard I am demanding of them?"
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

3. "Most wars between individuals are of the 'cold' rather than the 'hot' variety---lingering resentment, for example, grudges long held, resources clutched rather than shared, help not offered. These are the acts of war that most threaten our homes and workplaces."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

4. "...when I betray myself, others' faults become immediately inflated in my heart and mind. I begin to 'horribilize' others. That is, I begin to make them out to be worse than they really are. And I do this because the worse they are, the more justified I feel."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

5. "The more sure I am that I'm right, the more likely I will actually be mistaken. My need to be right makes it more likely that I will be wrong! Likewise, the more sure I am that I am mistreated, the more likely I am to miss ways that I am mistreating others myself. My need for justification obscures the truth."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

6. "...no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party begins to consider how he might be wrong."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

7. "Seeing an equal person as an inferior object is an act of violence"
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

8. "So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts or external wars we find ourselves in, we first need to find our way out of the internal wars that are poisoning our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes toward others. If we can't put an end to the violence within us, there is no hope for putting an end to the violence without."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

9. "In every moment...we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects. They either count like we do or they don't."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

10. "Bruises heal more quickly than emotional scars do."
- The Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

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